If you’re attempting the brave feat of writing a true story based on your life or experiences, you’re probably overwhelmed by the options of where and how and what to write. 

When I sat down to write what became my first memoir, even as a seasoned writer (I’d been publishing articles and essays for eight years at that time) I had NO idea how to turn a true story into a well-constructed narrative that would keep a reader invested for 80 000 – 100 000 words.

I loved to write, I’d been published before, I had an interesting tale to tell, but I had NO idea about story structure.

This enthusiasm got me pumping out thousands and thousands of words until, at 110 000 words I decided that I’d call that a first draft (!). 

It wasn’t until I started the gruelling task of trying to find a publisher that I realised it was missing SO many vital components to a workable memoir manuscript. 


When i DID learn about story structure around memoir specifically, I realised I needed to throw over 70 000 words in the little bin on the bottom right of my computer screen. They weren’t just words – these were nights spent hunched over my little laptop, refusing fun invites out with friends… This time spent on my unuseable manuscript was my life!

So how could I have avoided this wasted time, effort, unnecessary agony?

When I started to read about the 3 Act Story Structure and more specifically, how The Hero’s Journey connects with the 3 Act Structure, things started to make sense.

It was like I’d been given a lamp and a torch for the writing journey through the fog and the blackness of wading through memories and possible roads and everything in between.

The hardest part of writing a literary memoir (which isn’t your life story) is knowing what to include, and keeping it compelling.

The Hero’s Journey works SO well for memoir because it provides a very compelling container for your story. Let’s face it – any one personal story could go a hundred different ways. 

And it’s so simple, too! Twelve stages, three acts, 6-8 archetypes, and the narrator (you) is always the Hero.


Some people say the Hero’s Journey is too masculine, but I completely disagree – particularly when you see the stages, and the archetypes, from a place of symbolism and metaphor. In memoir, particularly, the ‘villain’ archetype is very often the shadow part of the self, so the battle may be internal. Your ‘mentor’ is merely a function, so if that function is to relay encouragement or information, yours might just be Gary Vee’s latest podcast! 

When I sat down to write A Letter From Paris, I knew a lot more about story structure (and memoir publishing) than I did when I wrote that first draft of what became Love & Other U-Turns

I made myself a notebook where I analysed a comparative title from the 12 Stage Hero’s Journey, and asked myself questions related to each stage so that I would get a draft down that included all those components that make a compelling true story.

It’s this process of questioning and consciously rescripting our personal narrative that I teach in depth inside THE ART OF MEMOIR.

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